Testimonials

I am less judgemental of myself. I am not bullying myself as much. My water, my food and my time is my healing. It's ok not to know - you can say " Now I Know". What progress am I most proud of? That I am accepting my thoughts and experiences - and they are only that I am ok, and I not just surviving but thriving Staying with the negative feeling - use my hands to make myself feel better Finding a hobby - collecting Art Helping one person a week What were the most meaningful "aha" moments? You'll know what you need to know when you get there Label your thoughts and emotions for they are - only thoughts and emotions Fear manifests in life Don’t figure out everything at the same time Change my attitude towards things If my stressor is repeating - what am I not learning What behaviours and practices do I hope to maintain? Meditation and Yoga " That everything is ok" Box Breaths " I am getting better, better and better" Write down my achievements every day Take moments and walk away Are there any ways in which my coaching journey feels incomplete? I believe my sessions became ritualistic and I looked out for Monday However - I do not believe it is incomplete - it gave me the steps I needed to open my mind, forgive myself and be nicer to myself My journey with Vibha came at the perfect time in my life - where I have gone through so many changes and adjustments - I needed tips and tools to work through these objections

"Going home and spending time with my mom was always a challenge for me and I was anxious. This time I was taking my boyfriend home for the first time to introduce him to my family. And my boyfriend was taking me to his family the first time and I wanted everything to go well. With the help of Vibha's coaching, I did 'the inner-work and prepared myself for the trip. Outcome and the notes about my experience: The month I was traveling and was full of wins. When with my family, I was able to only hold expectations for myself, and by doing so, everyone surprised me. My family was more than welcoming to my boyfriend, they cared about getting to know him and gave me amazing feedback on him as a person. When thinking about my relationship with my mom, I only focused on how I could be the best daughter to her and in return, she was more open and honest with me than she ever has been. I was able to successfully regulate my emotions and whenever I began to feel slightly overwhelmed or out of control, I went to my room to prioritize "me time" which always helped calm me down. When I was at my boyfriend's house, his family was great. They were sweet and welcoming and gave me and my boyfriend a lot of space. I walked away from the week feeling like I know his family and they know me. This entire month was a huge success, everything went better than I was hoping for and I am extremely grateful for this experience. I feel closer to my boyfriend, I feel closer to my family and it's more than I could have ever imagined!"

I had a lot of anxiety when it came to interacting with my boss. I would feel physically ill before a meeting with him due to his aggressive and demanding nature. I would feel constantly defensive and felt unable to support my thoughts and ideas when talking to him. I was quite frankly scared of him. Working with Vibha, The biggest lesson here was learning to stay calm and stay in my power. Before meetings, now I make sure I'm as prepared as I can before talking to him. I've also incorporated meditation and yoga/working out into my daily routine to help me stay grounded and secure in myself. When talking to him, I've learned to pause before speaking and to not let his loud and aggressive behavior come off onto me. Outcome: This has been the biggest improvement in my day to day both in and outside of work. My self-confidence has increased so much and I feel so much more at ease when communicating with my boss or really anyone that I feel anxious to talk with. I no longer get that physical pain in my stomach before meetings and if during meetings, he gets aggressive, I am able to stay in my power and sit back. Learning to stay in my power has also greatly helped my personal life as I know I do not need the approval of others to be happy and fulfilled. I can do that myself. By putting less expectations on others and being satisfied with what I can do myself makes me feel so much more happy as a person and less dependent and reliant on others.

This book is a great way to understand and connect with yourself. I gain insight into some things I need to work on in my life. I have a lot going but recognizing the power from within is a great way to help me to achieve my goals in life.

I'm so pleased with our sessions! I'm extremely grateful I have the opportunity to work with you each week. I appreciate your habit of revisiting my initial coaching goal statement (from weeks ago) so I stay focused on pursuing them. You're very kind, supportive and extremely easy to talk to. I trust the confidentiality of our sessions and I look forward to seeing your smiling face each week on my tiny little phone screen. 🙂 I also value the homework you give me. The exercises are (mostly) concise and enjoyable, and are helping me chip away at unveiling the *new* me. I know you craft the homework to make sure it's considerate of my time (uh, lack thereof), which helps me to maintain my practice - instead of procrastinating and brushing it off. With your help, I've actually made some progress in 5 short weeks/sessions. I've begun to understand a couple of things more clearly - and because my awareness has been raised I know continued sessions and practice will help me dig even deeper to adjust my behavior: I see more clearly that my high level of stress comes from within me - a lot due to my interpretation of the situation. I have begun to check myself going into and coming out of stressful meetings/encounters. It's not perfect, but I'm becoming more aware of how I feel and that I can control how I feel when working with especially political or unreasonable colleagues. Your relaxation exercises are wonderful for me - they slow me down, help me to go inside. These are the one thing I feel will help me achieve a multiple of the goals I listed - stress release, executive presence, the strength of character, trust in myself and what I have to offer, etc. Admittedly, I have much more work to do in this area - but I'm just beginning to understand why I should value honest feedback from my colleagues over the fear I feel of the criticism. I know our sessions won't last forever (sigh), but the good news is that I have already started to feel some confidence in being able to continue my intra-personal growth on my own once we're done. I've taken notes on all of our sessions and exercises and hold those with me. For now, I look very forward to the rest of our sessions and am hopeful for the production of much more growth and peace. Thank you, Vibha!

My outlook is different in so many ways due to the coaching Vibha has shared, but at its most basic - my whole life I’ve looked for gratification from the outside, from others. My parents, my bosses, my husband, my son, my ex-boyfriends – am I doing things that make them love me, make them see me? (Whatever I was.) Vibha made me understand that I have to be centred, to go within. I have to know who I am and find self-satisfaction for my own gifts. I have to love and trust myself first if I’m ever going to find happiness and personal power and be able to love and trust others. I can’t build my entire life around serving outside external forces and waiting for external love to make my life worthwhile and to make me “enough”. And I can’t run through life mindlessly, not checking in with myself. I have to be in the moment, aware and listening. I’ve also learned that the perfectionism value I’ve held so close all these years is not only not great, but can actually be destructive because I’m always shooting to deliver to someone else’s expectations. This goal can be deceiving because perfectionism was very effective at making me teacher’s pet, at landing jobs and earning salary increases, at being the “go-to” daughter and friend. But it was unsustainable and, ultimately, unfulfilling. It was an effective way to lose my compass, to lose connection to my inner self, to my own unique contributions, to my own personal, true-only-to-me passions and joys, to what I have to offer. I’m learning from Vibha that everything I need comes from me. That external drivers are fake, messy and offer rickety foundations. By centring myself, breathing, calming down and speaking from deep inside my humanity, my core, not from my eyeballs, I’ve been able to stay more even-keeled. This has even ironically helped me to listen better to others. I’ve been able to gain control over how I was showing up in meetings or with my family – to temper my over-eager and overly energetic approach into something much more approachable. This centring and mindfulness have made me better able to manage the litany of individual symptoms I sought to fix originally. I’ve found that if I can step quietly into my own truth – this automatically slows my speech and my flailing hands. Like a miracle. It’s hard to explain, but if I can let myself rely on me, on my years of experience and my earned education – if I can relax into the things I know I uniquely bring to the table, then I can calm down and trust and let those things hold me up. I don’t need the extra 24 x 7 googling and memorization I used to seek before I entered a big meeting. I can enter the room with a deep breath and some quietude – reaching into the calm and listening confidence that comes from knowing I, indeed, belong in that room. All I need to do is show up with my mind and my heart and my good intentions. I’ve learned I just need to enter a room with me and take it respectfully from there. This has been life-changing.